Attraction couldn’t save our lives,even if we tried.
By GoldI think making a decision to be with someone is a little played down. When you meet someone,you’re fired up by the attraction and undying need to get to know them better but with each and every layer being unveiled you realize that you need more than ‘attraction’ to be in a relationship.
I am not speaking about the ugly parts of people right now(of which this is still inclusive)but I am making reference to those parts of ourselves or in people that are different from us and you have to make a decision as to whether you want to move on from it(which could mean leaving your attraction right where it is) or face it right on(which ultimately means/requires compromise).
These not so good part could be how do they react in anger?. How quickly or slowly do you resolve bickering?. Does he/she know the value of communication and how you want to be communicated with? Is your definition of honesty the same as theirs? These discussion/opinion would necessarily not be revealed with the questions asked directly but in their actions-Pay close attention.
Pay close attention to how they act,think,talk and to the things they support/defend also;pay the closest attention to yourself. You cannot watch others and negate yourself while at it,I mean how do you expect to know exactly what you want from others if you do not know about you. Take notice of your toxic traits and work on them,those things you do not fancy about yourself,those things your sisters have been complaining about,take note and work on them.
These are the major reasons why I am single,I’m not in search of perfection;I just need someone willing to work past an attraction phase with.
