Is Bad Sex A Good Enough Reason To Breakup With Someone?

For a generation that is sex-crazed and very progressive, the topic “Is Bad Sex A Good Enough Reason To Breakup With Someone” doesn’t come as a surprise.

And with how expressive we have gotten with our sexual desires, I, however, marvel at the statistics of men and women who constantly find themselves in relationships that do not bring them their desired sexual experience.

Statistics according to Mayo Clinic estimates that about one in three men experiences Premature Ejaculation at a certain point. Read here: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/premature-ejaculation/symptoms-causes/syc-20354900 and we are yet to talk about the number of men who can’t find their woman’s clitoris, talk more of giving her an orgasm.

How many times have you had to rethink a relationship, be it plainly sexual or a full-on romance because of bad sex?

Bad sex in this context being premature ejaculation or not knowing how to fuck you right, refusing to go down on you, and any other way you choose to define it.

Do you think you could sustain a relationship where the sex isn’t great? Or is it a solid ground for a breakup?

On my end, I spoke to 3 women from the ages of 24 with different sexualities who have either dealt with premature ejaculation from their male partners, inability to get erect or have an orgasm with their female partners. They let us know how they handled the experience and if they stayed or may be left.

Gold: Thank you, Tobi, for taking the time to speak to me, my questions are around your sex life and partners. And my first question is, have you been with someone that had premature ejaculation or maybe you had terrible sex with?
Tobi: Yes, someone that couldn’t get his dick up

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Gold: Did you hook up with the person again after that experience?
Tobi: Never did! Honestly, I met him off Twitter in 2018…. we used to talk all the time and sext a lot until we decided to meet at a hotel. We finally met.

Kissed, smooched and his head game was great, but he had a very tiny dick. You know those guys that go on about how they’re going to shift your womb and shit, but he was so flaccid. He kept beating himself up and apologizing because, to be honest, I got irritated. We planned on staying together for some days, so I had to find a silly excuse, and I left the hotel same day.

“…We planned on staying together for some days, so I had to find a silly excuse, and I left the hotel same day”

Gold: Did you ever see him after that?
Tobi: I stopped talking to him since then (she laughs) I couldn’t hide it

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Gold: Hi Queen, thank you for finding time to talk to me, shall we dive in with you telling me your thoughts on premature ejaculation
Queen: Of course! First, I think it is very normal because every guy I have been with has had it.

Gold: Do you think it is a solid ground for a breakup?
Queen: Not necessarily, except that one time one guy lasted for three seconds and I couldn’t believe it.

Gold: Did you hook up with him after that, or maybe continue seeing him?
Queen: I tried giving him the benefit of doubt, so we tried again after a few days, and I swear he lasted for 10 seconds.

“…I called it waste of sin“

Queen: My current partner used to be this way at the beginning of our relationship, so he started taking some local herbs, and he has improved.

Gold: Would you ever let your man know that you aren’t sexually satisfied with him?
Queen: I never have and I don’t think it’s something I could say

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Gold: Hi Ruby, so good to have you here. Do you mind sharing with me one of your worst sexual experiences?
Ruby: I don’t know if I have had any, my memory isn’t quite serving me well right now but I have dealt with premature ejaculation.

Gold: Could you tell us if and how it affected your relationship?
Ruby: I felt handicapped because for the first time in my life I had to deal with something like this and it was from the man I loved

Gold: Did you think it ground to break up with him?
Ruby: Of course I did, premature ejaculation is more than enough grounds to call a relationship off.

“Premature Ejaculation is more than enough grounds to call a relationship off“.

Gold: So how did you handle it?
Ruby: We went to see a doctor and got some medications, he’s been getting better ever since.

Gold: Aside from having premature ejaculation, do you think you have a good sexual relationship?
Ruby: I very much believe so, especially because he was never this way when we met.

I agree with the ladies, bad sex is a solid ground for a breakup, however, if you are in a relationship you care about, make sure you have exhausted all your options for a remedy before calling it quits. Premature Ejaculation can be fixed with medications, so please visit a doctor today.

Sex as an act can also be learnt and improved, do not be shy to ask your partner what he/she enjoys or wants, watch videos(lessons and porns) to get ideas on how to work the body.

Lastly, please communicate with your partner(s) on your wants, desires and fantasies. What is the essence of sex if it isn’t to be enjoyed?